Can I save my marriage?

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Yes, I am definitely co-dependent. Thanks Trent for pointing that out again. I didn't realize when I wrote that sentence how I was being. You're right I'm am a H pleaser. Its getting me nowhere. I need to fight my fears and just do it. If there is one thing I'm going to do this week it is going to be setting a boundary. I owe it to myself. I've done it before I can do it again. He did walk out on me, I just try to do the DB'ing part where you act as if...act like i'm living my life and everything is fine, and I don't need him. So when I set a boundary I just need to go about it in a nice way..true?

Sadgirl, I get the point of H being a want not a need. How did you get to that point? I know in my heart that H is a want, but I still feel like he is a need...Hmmm...

Readytochange, you're right. He is a selfish man. My MC said that as well. He walked out on us and is demanding the garage door opener to the house so he can come and go when he pleases. How fair is that? I can't come and go when I please into his sisters house? He wants to be able to do what ever he wants in life and that's one of the main reasons why he left. He was tired of having a nagging wife. Yes I nagged. I'm sure you all can't believe it...hehe...I had problems, and I work on them everyday. I feel I've made many personal changes in myself since he left. But Trent is right, have not applied DB'ing very well. I think I need to get the DR book. Cause the DB one doesn't seem to have very much for me.

Sadgirl, you're right, I should be angry with him. I'm just a worrywart. I get that from my father. He is the BIGGEST worrywart ever. My sister is so frustrated with how I can't seem to have an ounce of anger in my body toward him but I love the man and support him and hope he is just making a small stupid mistake. I don't want to get angry I just want to be here if he decided to come home to us.