Met up with a woman who used to work with me, yesterday - did some catching up. She went through a nasty divorce from an abusive man, about a year before my bomb. She has a great job, now, making more money. I teach her kids, and they are doing pretty well. She has been dating a guy for about a year. I told her that looking at the schedule, things seem so daunting to get back out there. She said that she went on a TON of first dates, not many second ones. Keep the standards high - it is definitely different this time around! A new person has to prove their worth to you, bend and be flexible to fit in around an already-established life. The kids, other established relationships, come first. But, she is happy. They don't see each other too often, but he is a good man, and she can look back and see how messed up her first marriage was, now.
