Sadgirl, how did you set that boundary of your H needing to be invited in? Are you in a new home or the house you both lived in?
Yes, I am in the home we shared. His stuff is all around me. I set the boundary by telling him he need to call and knock. He chose to leave, so he has no right just sauntering in like he owns the place. I've said this to you before...his personal belongings are just stuff.
You are exaggerating the importance of him. He is a want, not a need. The more you focus on him, the less successful you will be. You have to relax so you can win.
