Does anyone have any opinion about the post above.
She was obviously looking to talk about something.
Should I have pushed more?
No, I think you were okay.
If she says something like that again tonight, you might push for more: "It seems like you have something on your mind..."
That was a 180 for me -- my wife would start to say something, then say "never mind"; I don't let her get away with that any more, and ask her to tell me what she was thinking. It's never as bad as she thinks, either.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Women ask questions, men make statements. What she meant is: I want to talk.
Like Trent says you need to spark the conversation, "No, but I know you well enougth to understand that you have something on your mind. Go ahead, I am listening."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Women ask questions, men make statements. What she meant is: I want to talk.
Like Trent says you need to spark the conversation, "No, but I know you well enougth to understand that you have something on your mind. Go ahead, I am listening."
Not much new spouse wise last night. As we are in the middle of packing and moving she kept saying she wanted to give some furniture of a friend of her's kid.
That really flustered me for some reason.
What I am struggling with is the language she uses. She keeps talking as if there is a future together or what is going to happen here and there.
Anyways I told her not to give any furniture away as if she goes through with her plan I will not be in a position to buy new stuff.
That whole conversation really threw me off my game. I really felt like whining and asking if she thought she might change her mind.
I didn't but it was really hard.
Struggled yesterday and it seem to show. Noticed she seemed to have suttle power over me.
Yes. As difficult as it is, try to treat it like a business relationship right now (which, sadly, it largely is). That's why it's so important to DETACH.
And yes, you have allowed her to have a lot of power over you. The way to take that back is with learning to lay out and enforce BOUNDARIES, and in your GALing stuff where you start to feel better about yourself.
