Can I save my marriage?

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I hear everyone's advice. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart. I get now why maybe I'm not successfully DB'ing. My fear is my worst enemy right now. I'm scared to put that boundary up about walking in when he pleases because I don't want him to get mad at me. We get along so great that I feel like if I let him do what he wants then he will continue to be happy around me and eventually want to come home to our happy home. If I set those boundaries then it causes anger and then there goes my chances. That's is just the feelings in me right now. I am going to avoid contact at all cost for the next day or two. The kids come back tomorrow night so I can really only avoid it today and most of tomorrow. But it will be better than the everyday contact we've been having lately.

Sadgirl, how did you set that boundary of your H needing to be invited in? Are you in a new home or the house you both lived in? I feel like my H wants to come and go as he pleases because its still his house. ALL his stuff is still here. ALL his clothes are still in the closet and dressers. Nothing has changed except for when he removed a handful of clothes out in a suitcase. I think he would be mad because it IS still his house and HIS stuff IS still all here. ????
I think maybe the tears are starting to stem from the fact that I feel like he is moving on. I haven't cried in a few weeks and now I can't seem to stop...I think its all part of me letting go. And also this unbearable loneliness, I am having a hard time being so alone. I don't have my children, and I am just plain lonely. Its the middle of the day, middle of the week and people are working. You're right though, I am obsessed with him. How do you not be? How does everybody go so many years of seeing and talking to that person every day and know what they are up to every second, to now knowing a thing? I am petrified of this coming weekend. My H only works days, so he'll be off at 7 every night and then off to interact in his new found social life while I'm at home with the kids. Its gut wrenching. Its been 6 weeks and it isn't getting any easier. It did for a while, but then the man shows me mixed signals and I'm back to square one. So I guess its time to saddle up and jump on this DB'ing horse once and for all. I need to "man" up. ha ha. If there is any way I'm going to "R" with my H than i need a new approach cause he isn't home yet, so whatever i'm doing or not doing isn't working. Thanks again everybody. I really appreciate everyone's input. I read your posts over and over and it gives me a little energy to get on with it.