I dunno, I was spiraling down in much the same way until I got on some anti-anxiety meds.
Maybe if she does the same, the rest of this will be easier for her.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement