Coping with Bi-Polar WAW

[CountingCrows]

I'm going to book store tonight to try to pick up several suggested ones, as well as the DB book(s) as well. I know I've got a lot of reading/studying to do before I fully understand these principles and methods.

I just don't know how to approach the financial situation. Do I let her know that unless she's willing to return, she will no longer receive any financial support whatsoever? Am I just supposed to cut her off completely and let her wallow in her decision to leave? Won't being that callous to her situation just make matters worse? I understand that she needs to accept and own the consequences of her choices, but I can't even begin to decide how to present the financial cut-off without coming across as vengeful or as a way to "blackmail" her into coming back home.

She's mostly on generic drugs now, so the meds are pretty cheap. She would be able to afford them even with a low-paying job. In fact, she usually ends up making more than they cost, since she ends up selling some of her extras to friends at street prices. It's another thing I'm not crazy about, but it's been her only "income" to bring in a few extra $$ spending money. She has at least shared some of her Xanax with me. Without them, I wouldn't have slept for the past 2 weeks and I'd be in much worse shape physically than I am now.

But, you're right about the cell phone. To continue paying for another year would cost me more than the penalty. She wouldn't be completely left out in the cold there, since she still has her not-so "secret phone" active. I still have full access to both phone's records (she doesn't even know the passwords), but have not looked at them since she left. It was turning me into a raving lunatic and I can't deal with being that suspicious with such little information (can only see when and who she texted/talked to, but not what was said).

I'm really feeling like I'm losing it right now. I know that some HUGE decisions must be made by me soon, but I don't want to make one that prematurely puts the nail in the R/M coffin.