I would also -- if you haven't already -- check with a family law atty to find out the dollar value of LIKELY SUPPORT he would be paying YOU (offset by what you would be paying HIM) if you guys were to "go legal" on all of this. I wonder if you're not bartering away things that he'd likely have to pay for, anyway??
It is your choice to be ignorant or to be informed. Which one is a healthier choice?
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712