Saffie, at the time when the A started, I was excited to start building a cabin on the mountain on a piece of land I own. We had picked that together but it was a gift to me, from my parents. We were making plans for years how great it would be to built it and have people over. In the begining I didnt see how reluctant he was going ahead with committing to a loan for the cabin. Very soon I resented him for not being a part of the process. A few months later, I dropped the issue because things were bad between us. Now I know, he didnt want anything that meant "future" to him binding us together. K
