although some was me trying to keep up with her "wants" during that time as well.
I completely understand you here. My W has been diagnosed with bipolar tendencies as well. She has a lot of impulsive desires. Fortunately, she is very good at controlling herself. But I understand the desire to "make her happy". Read "No more Mr. Nice Guy", it will help you understand why this is not good behavior. Also, understand that the 'happiness' they receive from these things is only temporary.
Originally Posted By: CountingCrows
I have continued to pay for her gas, medicines, C visits, car/insurance, health/dental insurance, cell phone (I'm locked in for another year or $200 penalty), as well as groceries. With everything being so recent (she's been gone 2 weeks 2 days), I haven't really had a chance to sit down and figure out how to handle this. I feel that if I cut her off completely (particularly things like her truck), she's either going to return simply because she has no way to support herself. Even if she gets a job, her limited education/training will not put her in a position to be able to afford any of her current expenses. She is still living with a mutual friend, who isn't charging her "rent" yet, but W has given her some small amount of money to help with the bills.
My other fear is that if I cut her off completely, and leave her destitute (more or less), it will be such a blow that it would completely destroy any chance of us reconciling. I do have full custody of s7. She has been helping me out, since I have to leave work before he goes to school, and he returns before I get off, but otherwise, she has been mostly absent from s's life.
I understand that she has an illness. But it is an illness that she must be able to deal with. You can help her cope. But she is responsible for her own actions. Another good book for you would be "Codependent No More". You can not enable her to make irresponsible choices without consequences. It will only hurt her in the long run.
