He is not going to allow me to take the kids to Tues. activities...
That is not his sole decision to make! These should be joint decisions.
The problem with extra-curricular activities for the children is that they often have schedules that will take place on either parent's custody time -- and thus, one has to plan and schedule those things as a concerted effort. And when one of the parents is a boorish n'er-do-well, like your H, those kind of communications can become as delicate as strategic arms limitation discussions. I've been going through the same insanities with my xW over activities for my S's, especially cub scouts.
Your H sounds, again, to be just like my ex, trying to one-up the other parent and to demonstrate their own arrogance as "the better parent." It's such a joke. And yes, it is infuriating to have to endure.
But stand your ground, Karen, and continue to insist and expect that your childish H return back to the line of scrimmage (so to speak.)
