Sorry, we're closed. Under new management.

[faithisbelieving]

Correct Jeff, 2006. KerryK, as I read thru this, I am convinced that, similar to what is written in A New Earth by Tolle, we put on masks that cannot be kept in place forever.

There are chemicals in the body that intensify attraction that start to wane
after 12-18 months, and by 18-24 months are gone. That's the point at which
you find out whether there is REAL attraction or if it was just a
chemically-enhanced fantasy. After those chemicals wear off, it is the
behavior I describe in my book that keeps attraction up, and it can keep it
up indefinitely.

''''that's why I caution everyone to go through an intense evaluation before
trying to save a marriage; it is entirely possible to "save" a very BAD
marriage, and the only possible outcome of doing so is to be unhappy......

And now that
you have been through this ordeal, that is exactly what will happen to you.
You've been hit hard by this reality check, and you will hold out for such a
woman (referring to a relationship based on more than just 'attraction').

Luckily for both of us, they are very easy to find if you refuse to settle
for anything less so that you're available when they come along. In the
meantime, dating is an adventure of exploration, nto a process of trying to
bend yourself to each candidate and entice them to bend themselves to you.
That's what causes people to wake up at the two-year mark and realize they
really screwed up. Those initial attraction chemicals can make you see all
kinds of things that aren't there and make you excuse or ignore a lot of
problems that are there. And that's why I recommend to men to do the same
evaluation lists exercise as they go into dating that I recommend when they
are trying to determine whether to save a marriage. The lists are the same,
and when they're put on paper while you are rational, you have them as a
reference when you might be under the influence of attraction chemicals.

FIB