Coping with Bi-Polar WAW

[CountingCrows]

I am REALLY struggling with the financial situation right now. We were already in dire straights and facing imminent bankruptcy due to the balance of unsecured credit cards. Most of the balances were run up during last summer's mania, although some was me trying to keep up with her "wants" during that time as well.

I have continued to pay for her gas, medicines, C visits, car/insurance, health/dental insurance, cell phone (I'm locked in for another year or $200 penalty), as well as groceries. With everything being so recent (she's been gone 2 weeks 2 days), I haven't really had a chance to sit down and figure out how to handle this. I feel that if I cut her off completely (particularly things like her truck), she's either going to return simply because she has no way to support herself. Even if she gets a job, her limited education/training will not put her in a position to be able to afford any of her current expenses. She is still living with a mutual friend, who isn't charging her "rent" yet, but W has given her some small amount of money to help with the bills.

My other fear is that if I cut her off completely, and leave her destitute (more or less), it will be such a blow that it would completely destroy any chance of us reconciling. I do have full custody of s7. She has been helping me out, since I have to leave work before he goes to school, and he returns before I get off, but otherwise, she has been mostly absent from s's life.