One challenge with ADD, is you come across self centered, when your really not and wife had an issue with my intensity. I smothered her or gave my thoughts and compliments and she never really opened up, somehow the convo would always turn back to me and what i felt about her vs what she felt. Her feelings would be quick put downs vs long explanations.
I am focusing asking her easy stuff, something she can come back with a yes, no or none of my business and if she chooses to ignore ok, with the hope of just hey that was pretty funny wasn't it, I always talked about how I felt about her and showed her, I think for now just need to show her.
Again I don't contact her first, I avoid her, kids know I love her and I need to pick up some slack in some areas.
I also know the key to anyone's heart is how their children are treated, mine are treated well. Just a little spoiled and I'm tired of S crying himself to sleep at night and wife not comforting him. Both he and D said that last night.
