Puppy - I have wrestled back and forth with this in my mind. I guess my rationale for continuing in our agreement (through our separation we came to an agreement that instead of me paying H rent that I could in exchange continue to buy the groceries, cook, and clean as my contribution) was that H is still paying for everything - rent, electric, gas, water, cable/internet/phone, as well as my car insurance, health insurance, cell phone, and toll-transponder.
So for me, it is an extremely fair deal (money/business-wise) to just be responsible for buying groceries, and cooking/cleaning. I do not clean his bedroom or bathroom, and I do not do his laundry. I only clean the common house areas of the kitchen, living room, and office and my bedroom and bathroom.
I can't afford to pay rent and my other bills with the part time income that I make right now. When I get other employment with more money, H said we could change the arrangement to him still paying for everything including groceries, so I could save enough within a short time to get my own place.
Do you think there is another way to still set a boundary?
Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
