Newly Separated and Heartbroken

[ALJ]

Having mixed emotions today. I have been thinking about my kids and how they are coping with our separation. When H moved to GA, he told the kids that he was going to work. At first, they were showing signs of distress by acting out and crying easily. They would ask me "when is daddy coming home" or "is daddy living in a hotel?" I guess he thought that if he talked to them on the phone 2 or 3 times a week that that would make everything seem okay and they will be well-adjusted.

Well, it is bothering me that the kids are probably wondering when H is going to come home from "work" for good. I guess H thinks the kids are to young to understand what is going on and probably didnt know how to explain our situation to them. They are doing well right now, happy that christmas is coming, no more acting out, the questions about their dad has slowed down.

H and the kids take turns calling each other every two days. I do have to remind the kids most of the time to call him because I don't want H to think that I am stopping them from calling him. Sometimes when I ask them "do you want to call daddy?" they respond with "not now, maybe later" or "I have to watch my t.v show first."

Just wondering if I should talk with H the next time he comes to visit and ask him if he thinks this "going to work" business is damaging the kids with them hoping that he will come home to stay. Any thoughts or advice is welcomed.