Trent - I have been working on that actually. I will start counseling this week. I have worked on some things mentioned in DR...taking time to think about things before I react, stress relieving activities, etc. He said that for the three weeks before he left "You have been great." I was working out every day for 40 min, I had lost some weight, I was finding constructive ways to work out my temper.
This is excellent. And he has noticed, which is also positive.
Originally Posted By: praying_in_GA
I told him I was willing to continue to improve on that area but he told me he doesn't think it will change the way he feels. He has been hurt/upset for so long he isn't sure there is a way to find the love again. At the same time though, he said if it happens it will take a long time. He told me not to change to get him back, to change for myself and my happiness.
He is right.
You don't do this for him, you do this for yourself so it will make you a more loving and attractive person. Let him decide if that person is who he wants to be with.
As for him not thinking it will change the way he feels, he's not sure what to say or do right now; he's not going to say much of anything that makes sense. So let him stew on it while you work on yourself.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
