Trent - I have been working on that actually. I will start counseling this week. I have worked on some things mentioned in DR...taking time to think about things before I react, stress relieving activities, etc. He said that for the three weeks before he left "You have been great." I was working out every day for 40 min, I had lost some weight, I was finding constructive ways to work out my temper.
I told him I was willing to continue to improve on that area but he told me he doesn't think it will change the way he feels. He has been hurt/upset for so long he isn't sure there is a way to find the love again. At the same time though, he said if it happens it will take a long time. He told me not to change to get him back, to change for myself and my happiness.
Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month