G&T, I don't remember anyone on this site advocating to be forceful. That's your perspective of what a boundary is. Nobody talks about DBing as being black and white that is your spin on the advice you get.
Empathy Compassion Detachment Boundaries
These things are healthy and productive in all relationships.
You don't confront your wife because she gets mad and you are afraid of it. This is what you say you want yet your actions say something different.
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The problem between me and my WAW is a lack of communication, closeness and time together.
Yes, you have a communication problem - you lie to your wife, she upsets you with her behavior and you lie dormant and act like nothing is wrong.
Closeness - you will never have it, how can she trust you? You are afraid of her emotions, how can you get close to her?
Time together - OM still in the way
I would substitute loving for forceful in you post. Would you allow your child to do something that was harmful to themselves, your family and you? Or would you consider it forceful to interject what the consequences of the behavior is? Love has two sides to it.
Cheers Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
