john....I agree with your post but having been there too, I don't think Maria can totally 'unclutter' OW until she begins to see change and foundation building from her H. THAT...is what helps to make the visions and graphic pictures go away. Time, reconstruction, and a pattern of keeping one's word and following thru. FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
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