See, I think that is where I am getting confused. This shouldn't be hard...maybe it is lack of sleep.

So, mundane conversation is fine. Temp checking, looking for reassurances, or anything moving towards the R/D/M discussion is off limits.

Me: 33 / H: 36
M: 10y / T: 14y
3 kids
BD: 2/22/14
Live in separation 3/8/14
H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14
H moved out 4/25/14
2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month