It's hard for me to give you advice, as you seem to have multiple threads going and it's therefor hard to follow your sitch. But in general, I would say the mistake you are making is trying to evaluate the effectiveness of your DBing techniques (not pursuing him, not contacting him, etc.) with what he SAYS to you about it.
Personally, I'm seeing the opposite -- I'm seeing that it seems to GET to him, and therefore it's working??
However, you STILL pursued in your example from last nite, where I've highlighted it:
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So I have been totally going into the dark with my husband, as far as not talking to him at all during his work day or texting at all. I don't look at this facebook page or ask who he is texting or talking too. I have stopped asking for reassurances for about 2 weeks and not talked about our future for about 2 weeks. Well he seems to be more distant toward me. I did post about if this was working about a week ago but he seems even more distant. He came home last night in a bad mood and I said that I felt that he was upset about something, and he told me that he feels the same as he did for the past three months, but then he told me how would I know because I don’t talk to him all day and never contact him at work thru messenger etc…??? So what does that even mean, I leave him alone and he gets upset and I talk to him during the day and he gets upset. It is like I can’t win??? Just wanting some advice on what to do from here?
