Those who have read this thread know that WAW is planning on being around the house a fair amount after her move in order to see the kids. I am thinking I will go with the flow in December to ensure the vacation goes smoothly, and transition is easier on kids, but in January tell WAW I want real separation. She can still see kids, but I don't want to see or talk to her for quite some time. This will allow me to truly move on and also let her see the reality of the situation. She will still be cake eating to some extent, but only in reference to the kids and I am ok with that for their sakes.
