I know you said that you don't go to church, but maybe it's time to start again.
Depending on the size of your church, they often have women's ministries or new members' ministries where you can meet people.
I'm not saying that you have to become born again; the church exists to help people in all walks of life.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement