Separated--Does Not Admit to OW

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I am having a hard time getting my head around the issue of insisting he make a choice.

You wouldn't be insisting he make a choice. That's "controlling" -- an ultimatum.

You'd be telling him what YOU are willing to (and NOT willing to) abide.

"You must give up OW" -- CONTROLLING.

"I will not live in an open marriage, and compete for my own husband" -- BOUNDARY.

See the difference?

Puppy