Question

[awest1217]

Today I am having a hard time. I am not sure of what to do. On one hand, H is making some medium sized steps so I don't want to slam that in his face, but on the other hand, H as soon as he left me called OW and was on the phone with her until 1 am this morning (I know I shouldn't check the phone records, but I did). I just don't know what to do. DR talks about detaching and giving your spouse some space when he/she does not want to leave OP and give them a chance to see you have changed and realize that things are better with you. H is talking to OW less, but she is still around and I just get this sick feeling in the pit of my stomach that she is keeping him from coming home by saying that "they will never get to talk" and "she needs him".

I just don't know, but I what I think is I am going to go grocery shopping and act "as if" things are great. If it continues and I can't handle it, then I will deal with it then. I heard a song on the radio this morning "One Life to Love" and I know I am doing what is right in my eyes. I just need strength and patience to not want everything at once, but to enjoy the small steps and keep going.

Let me know thoughts.