I didn't mean any offense. To "me" a 25 yr old is still a boy, but that is b/c of my age.....not so much his. blush BTW, I do not use the word "boy" in a negative sense at all! I was trying to be funny in a weird way and it backfired. However, what I said about my statement was built upon what I've heard from people such as Dr. Phil and other TV personalities, and read in books, and heard from people in person. Out of curiousity, how would you describe what Britt's H did? Would you say he had anything deep & meaningful when he had sex with her that last time? Or do you think that the hugging & kissing led to the bedroom and that led to having sex? She is wondering if he had some reason for that......and I'm thinking he's a young man who is in an intimate situation and M to this young lady.....so why not have sex! I was saying that based on what I had heard & read, that he could have this intimate time with her without any particular emotional meaning attached to it, whereas women want to put some type of significance to that time. JMHO, but a reminder of how different men & women are.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!