Longtime coming...

[Awoken]

Have you asked the C if the bi-polar could push a person into an A? I would like to know myself.

C says it's very common for BP's to have A during manic phase. They sometimes experience increased sexuality, or hypersexuality.

Oh my ....how sad you must feel. But surely there were a few good times, wasn't there?

Sure, especially with our two children. Of course, I questioning everything right now. I gotta remember that most of what she says right now is not truth, right?

Did you know she was bi-polar before you M her? I wonder if she was in a manic stage when she had the other A's.

No, I didn't know. I knew she had some problems with first M. It seems to have been to pattern. It started in her early teens.

When you spoke of her being detached b/c of her depression and that you had done the chasing, did you feel that you had to do that to keep from losing her into that dark pit of depression....or was it to try to keep the family held together the best you could?

I'm sure it was both, and now I've awoken to the fact that I've been in some denial about what has been going on all these years.

Sounds like you have had your share of hard times where she is concerned. Sure wish somebody could convince her to get back on her meds. Do the children have any influence with her?

Well, she is very close to them. Esp with D17. She does seem to be detaching a little from them as she pursues her new life. She has no interest in new medicines. She went to her general doctor and got some general medicine for depression, not suitable for BPD. I'm sure she didn't mention the BDP to the doc. She is trying to "cut back" on her alcohol use. Of course, I expect some of that is preparing for the divorce.