Not sure what to do

[bluerain]

I think that there is a time to talk about things, but I also think that it needs to be done gingerly, and usually its a terrible idea because as emotional human beings, we are often totally incapable of treading lightly! But you lucked out and this time it worked in your favor! This is good that you realized what you had been doing, thats more effective than anything that we could have tried to pound into your head.

But like I said, if you ask these loaded questions always be mindful that you might get your answer, and it might be just the opposite of what you would like to hear. You might make her feel cornered and make a rash decision that she will likely have trouble moving away from.