Not sure what to do

[bluerain]

Hi stu, I think that you should be planning something for yourself that you can really look forward to. What about taking your son to some kind of father-son super fun activity? Camping, or to a waterpark? You could spend the day together and then spend the evening watching lame scary movies with popcorn and junk food or something like that?

Theres always something to celebrate!

On a different vein- You will have a chance to air your issues, Im guessing that this has been building up within her for some time, and she hasnt ever had a chance to just purge it all without judgement or arguement? Ill bet that if you give her that chance, she will notice.

If she accuses you of cheating, I would just say that you dont appreciate being accused of such a thing, and its disrespectful for her to be trying to say something like that but please, let her finish. But its really important that you dont start "replaying old tapes" by continuing to engage in these totally unproductive patterns where you just start getting more and more angry until all communication has totally disolved into a screaming match.

Also, if this is a legitimate concern that she has (is there anything that you can think of that would give her that impression?) I think that its important that you hear her out... it may be hard, but just think about how you would feel if she wouldnt listen to you if you were expressing similar thoughts to her? Either way, let her finish before you interject, at least.