Puppy,
thank you so much. YOu are a lifeline to me right now, as well as this community.

You are right. I don't owe any explanations. I told him when I confronted him that I had a right to seek support and that I would do that. He agreed. But I could tell it made him nervous.

I called my sister and told her, but I know she can be confidential. I just needed someone right after the confrontation, and she was wonderfully supportive. I needed to not feel alone.

Yes, we will talk tomorrow. I will probably take a sleeping pill to get through the night. I will be taking a leave from work for a bit to get myself together and figure out what to do, how to cope. Fortunately, I start IC tomorrow too. Good timing. Don't know if it even makes sense or if H would even go to the next MC appt. scheduled for Friday. I guess he was doing that for show?

Thanks for the hugs. I need them right now.