Can I save my marriage?

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Hmmm... Puppy, what do you see as the difference? Cause I just learned about co-dependency today, and I have no idea what you mean about reactionary??

Sadgirl, I love my husband.I have loved him since the day I set eyes on him. I don't want to love anybody else. I don't want to be anybody else's wife. That's what's wrong with it.

As for the three things that makes him so worth having?
1) He is the most caring, sensitive, loving person I know.
2) He is smart, funny and spontaneous. The three things I look for in a man.
3) He is such an optimistic person. He makes me want to be a better person everyday.

Motherof3 - I'm painting it caramel. With an accent wall being olive green. Its our basement living room. The one we spend most of our time in, with the big screen so I'm making it warm and cozy. Thanks for asking!
You sound so well spoken. When I read your sentence " You sound just like I did about three weeks ago. Then I made a conscious decision to start focusing on me with a 'who cares what H is doing right now' attitude. I can't control him, but I can certainly control me. Sometimes it is hard for me to follow my own advice. But when I fall off I get right back on and try again. it instantly gave me shivers because I want to be able to say that myself. I want that feeling desperately. If you say you were where I am three weeks ago, then hopefully in three weeks ago you can read me saying that myself to a newcomer. Here's to hoping...

As for tonight. I'm sitting in my robe watching t.v. and there goes the garage door. He popped by to get swimming shorts for the boys so they can go swimming tonight. We have a few minutes of conversation. He asks me what I was up to today. I told him not much. (Obviously I was in my robe and my hair wasn't done! errr..) So he leaves. Not even five minutes later the garage door opens again. He comes in saying he needs trunks for himself so he goes to the bedroom and grabs them. This time before he left he mentioned a xmas gift that he wants to get S3. I agree its a good gift but its quite large. We have this "Thomas the Train" train table in the playroom now. He says he wants to move that out and put this new hockey table in its place. Well if HE wants to get him a hockey table for xmas, why is it going in "my" house. I realize he is at is sister's now and there is no room and its not his house so it kind of has to go here. But once again, I read into things. " WE will just move the train table out and put it there" Well its your gift to your son, and I'm not going to play hockey with him, you are, so if its here H can't play it with him obviously. So then I start reading into what he meant. Errr....So he leaves and goes swimming. I'm happy go lucky Britt. Nothing is bothering me...(ya right)

About an hour later phone rings, its him...ugh I don't answer. Then my cell rings...ugh...The guy can't leave me alone! So I waited a while and then returned his call. I though if I didn't he would be suspicious. He obviously knew I was home doing nothing! He told me he called to tell me something funny S3 said on the way home. That was it. He hasn't done that in 6 weeks. Now he needs to call me to tell me these little things? I just wanted to scream " YOU KNOW WE COULD SHARE THESE FUNNY MOMENTS OUR CHILDREN ARE GOING THROUGH TOGETHER IF YOU WOULD JUST COME HOME! YOU ARE OBVIOUSLY WANTING TO SHARE THEM WITH ME BY CALLING ME!"

We don't argue, we don't have problems, we get along better than ever lately (other than one silly drunken night on sat) which we still basically got along, but anyways, so what is stopping him from walking in the door?