I think that when he says things like that he is fishing for you to disagree with him. Dont. Say maybe your right, but I know that I would rather have us give good effort to saving this thing, for us and our kids.
These people somehow become thoroughly convinced that D will solve their problems, and it wont, but they often wont beleive YOU. Have you looked into the books that I mentioned before?
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
