Appropriate Boundary or am I being Pissy

[Gardener]

You're not wrong. She sounds like a controlling b*tch, the way you describe it.

Are you sure there's not something else you're not telling us??

Puppy

Ditto.
And from what I gather, you're both overweight"? If so, she's either threatened or intimidated by you losing weight while she stays fat. Kinda like when two are alcoholics and one stops. It changes the dynamic. And it's no longer "We're the same, so nothing's wrong." It now becomes "Hey, I'm the drinker."

And, yeah, she sounds like a controller.