Appropriate Boundary or am I being Pissy

[TrentC]

I have loved her and cherished her through 3 kids and 120 pounds that she has put on. I am currently overweight, but I outweigh her by 30lbs and I'm 9 inches taller. When I dropped a lot of weight she castigated me for it. I was in great shape and she put me down about it. She is very controlling about my diet and my exercise. I used to run and now don't. I used to lift and now don't. I used to eat right and now don't.

I think this part is most telling; it's not just about your weight, because she gave you grief when you were in better shape.

I told her not to bring it up any more. She did anyway. I told her that if she insists, our remaining discussions can be through attorneys. I just can't lose weight for her. I can do it for me, but I'd never look at myself right if I let her whip me into this. Am I wrong?

Nope. Tell her to back off, you'll deal with your weight and your health as you see fit.