In shock...

[Gardener]

Kind of a hijack alert
Sandi, I don't think I've ever taken issue with anything you've ever posted, but

However, from all that I've read and heard......men can very easily separate having sex from any thing else.

True there are differences - basic and obvious - like most women need emotional connectedness to want sex whereas most men need sex to truly induce and provide that same intense emotional connectedness and bonding. BUT

To most men...it's just sex!

is simply not true. Most boys, sure. Most guys, pretty much, But most men? No. Real men and women make love. Men and women can (and often do) prefer sex over making love at times (in fact the handful of times on this forum I've heard a preference for "good ol' Caveman Sex", it was expressed by women, not men). Both men and women can and do approach it equally as "playtime", too.

Kind of takes the romance out of it, doesn't it?

I think that while they don't show it easily or anywhere near as easily as women, most men are truly romantics at heart. I hear it often from many of the men on this forum. In a "survey" of LBHs on the WAW forum, one of the questions was "What do you miss the most about your WAW? " I answered - among other aspects of missing my wife -"the honor, privilege, and ecstasy of being inside her sexually."
Don't get me wrong, the caveman sex, spontanaity, role-playing and "toys" all have a large place in it, too! You betcha!

Stepping off my carnal soapbox, now.

But I believe most men are all these things in their heart of hearts.