Hi Awoken, it's a fine line. Yes, you should not "care" what choices she makes as in being detached enough to go on with your life. That's not to say you should be unkind or uncaring in your actions.

And as Sandi pointed out, as long as she is in a WAS mode, you're dealing with a stranger. Even if she has the best of intentions to cut off the EA, mentally and emotionally she needs time to effect it.

Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.