I used to hang my hat on the hope that eventually my ex would be miserable and realize that she made a mistake.
It's kind of like having a big game against the best team around and hoping it rains so you don't have to play it.
Doesn't change the fact that eventually the game's going to be played...
And it ruins an otherwise decent evening in the process...
It dawned on me at some point that hoping she feels sad for what she lost at some point just meant that I was wasting time enjoying MY life.
Change is hard. There's not a much harder change than life after divorce. But once you accept it and digest it, you realize that your life hasn't ended.
It's just changed.
Change is neither good nor bad. Or maybe I should say that change can be either good or bad. Which one is pretty much up to us.
I know well the financial mess that ending a marriage can bring. You will overcome this and you will succeed and thrive again. You're a strong man, just like I am a strong man. We CAN be knocked down. But we WILL get back up and press on, in many ways stronger than before.
You have a relationship with your two daughters that is to be envied. There's a lot to be thankful for in that, and quite a bit to look forward to. And don't be surprised to discover one day that there may even be more.
Hate to drop cliches, but an ending is also a beginning. I know the rest of YOUR story can and will be a great one.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
