Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

I'm scared to move stuff out yet.

Don't be. This is his choice to move out of the house. Set him up in the spare bedroom; this is non-destructive, and you can make it a celebration when he moves back into your house and your family.

I wonder what he would say or think?

...OK, do I really need to say it at this point?

When its time to officially call it quits we need to sell the house. I can't afford it on my own so I don't want to do anything with his stuff till then. Till its time to box it up for moving day...

But what better way to show him that you're doing fine without him? Maybe this will start him towards that oft-hoped-for day when he comes to his senses.

You said a while back that his life was happy the way it is now. I said that it's time to make him less happy. Heck, invite some of your friends over and make it a painting party! Let him find out through the grapevine...