The same was probably also true with my former spouse. While there were a few glimmers of things turning around, in the end db only saved myself from becoming a train wreck and left her with a good ending impression. It was already too late for the marriage.

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One of the things that really got me was sometimes how a comment from a counselor (my own counselor excepted), pdoc, and lawyer hinted the whole sitch was routine, or a timeline. Kind of like there is nothing different about you or this whole thing.

"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh