Don't fear her anger. Expect it and be prepared for it. She needs to see a man who shows strength and won't be used as a doormat.
If she is in an EA with OM (and sounds as if she is) then she will have little respect or admiration for you as long as you try to "make her happy". As I'm sure you know, nobody can make her happy but herself.....but I will go another step and say that as long as she is in this WAW mode, then you really should not focus on trying to "please her". I don't mean to give you the idea that you should be a brute, but when LBH's start trying to please their WAW....it comes across as being "weak". If you have a WAW b/c of her feelings for OM....then she needs tough love to be applied.
It seems that you are faced with a triple whammy in this stitch. Has she ever refused to take her meds before? I have heard that when a person is in the manic mode, that is when they will get stubborn about taking their meds b/c they don't think they need it any longer.
Did anything particular happen during the last 16 years that made it so difficult.....or is that just her description of the MR?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
