It is an unnatural feeling. It goes counter to a core belief. That unnatural feeling? I could not comprehend it, was in my own fog of fear, denial... could not process the information.
My former spouse was committed to the divorce, was gone the moment he said he was miserable, shut the door and went his own way. It took me a whole lot longer.
If I could do it over again, I would have agreed to the divorce lickety-split, divided everything up before his alpha male "I will crush you" mentality kicked in.
Yet.. lots of growth went on during the process. I don't know how much DBing works on a spouse who is completely gone. Or rather.. I knew it was over, but feared I didn't DB enough so I kept 'trying'. The fear of failure added to the angst of divorce.
