Take this quiz..It was an EYE OPENER for me!!!! I did not realize that the things that I was doing that I felt were beneficial were actually co-dependant behaviors! I think I may start reading up on this..the fact of the matter is, the more confident I am with myself the more I am able to overcome my issues with co-dependacy.
The site say this : It is very common in people raised in dysfunctional families, and in the partners and children of alcoholics and addicts but I had a normal childhood..and no addicts or alcholism in my family..however...my h is an alcoholic
Hey Britt. I appreciate you reading and commenting on my stitch so I plan to do the same with yours. I have to get ready for work right now, but I will be back later. Just wanted to stop in a say hey.
Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month
Just took the quiz. I fit in the moderately co-dependent. My MC brought it up in our session today. Saying that H and I both are. And that's why I can't get out of the slump I'm in. I need to have some faith and pray and ask for God to forgive me for this and help me be independent. So I'm going to start this tonight. Its day one again of not having my kids and not talking to H. It never seems to get easier. I am more lonely today than I was in week one. Not having a job and being a stay at home mom really doesn't help. I have decided for the next two days I don't have my children I'm going to paint our living room. I've wanted to for some time, and now that the kids are gone I actually can. So that's my week!
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
That's excellent. Start doing things around the house that you want to do.
Start making the master bedroom your own; move his stuff into the spare bedroom, put up new curtains, etc.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Good for you! You can do this. Our children are around the same age, I have a 5 year old and a 20 month old and I cannot imagine being without them, it just does not seem fair. Hang in there. Read a book, maybe a part time job is just what you need, volunteer( a local YMCA would be a great start). Take care of YOU. The only person that you can change is yourself. I have learned so much about myself over the last 6 months and how strong I can be!!!! Train for a 5k. I am here for you...I will check out your thread and support you! You can do this...for your children and for yourself. You deserve to be happy!!!! Show that H what you are really made of!
I'm scared to move stuff out yet. I wonder what he would say or think? When its time to officially call it quits we need to sell the house. I can't afford it on my own so I don't want to do anything with his stuff till then. Till its time to box it up for moving day...
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
You have only been separated for 6 weeks. Keep DB'ing. GAL...Do not worry about what he is doing, worry about what you are doing. Make a plan for yourself. I was doing the same thing until I realized that no matter what I wold be okay. You are not D yet or even in the process...so hang in there, it is not too late to turn this around! Work on yourself. Who care what he says or thinks..this is about you. That is co-dependant thinking. He should be worried about losing you because you have SO much to offer.
