The problem with using intimacy as a 180 is that he wants me to back off on the hugs and such. He said he doesn't want me to get hurt. Early on in the separation he said that IF we were to stay together it would take a long time. The other day he said "We both know where this is headed." I think he sees how much I want this to work and how unwilling I am to let go of it and he wants to minimize the pain I feel. That is one reason I can't believe much of what he says. He still cares about me and wants to see me happy, but he is going through this thing right now.
He told me last week that he wanted me to be mad at him so I wouldn't cry so much. It makes me think some of the things he is doing is to push me in that direction.
Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month
