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Wow, this is crazy how similar we are. Patience is a huge problem of mine too. I lost it the other night and now I have slipped back. You have him saying that "IF" this will work out it will take time. Well exactly! Just be glad he said that! I know you can't believe everything he says right now. He is confused. As is my H. One day he says one thing, the next he says another. As much as it sucks right now, time is key. I look back to week one when people were saying, just give it a month or two. Uh what? A month or two! Are you crazy! I can't wait that long! And look, its week 6 already. Time flies, before you know it, it will be xmas. Not that we want to think about that at all right now. So lets not. Take it minute by minute, hour by hour. That's all that got me through the beginning. I guess in a way I'm still in the beginning, some people on here are in months and years. I'm only in weeks. I hope I can get back to where I was too, I just have to FOCUS and have some PATIENCE. Also, DB'ing and DR'ing will really test your self-discipline. I also lost that the other night. But now have learned how important it is.

I too would like to use our intimacy as a 180. After having our boys we became less intimate. Even just a general kiss or hug as we passed each other in the hall was obsolete. And I blame myself, he always tried, but I resisted. Ask me why? I have no idea. I would give anything for a kiss from him right now. But I see what you mean by incorporating that as a 180. It would be, but at the same time, we're separated so how do you incorporate it? Well next time he comes by to get the kids or next time you drop off the kids and you guys are talking just a small touch on his arm is a place to start. See how he reacts and take it from there. Remember baby steps. My H came in for a hug about a week ago, and it lead to kissing and lead to the bedroom. So you never know where it will take you. The bad thing for us, is I reverted and I'm back at square one. I let it go TOO far and so he was cake eating in a way. Stay true to yourself.