Validating but also to avoid unneeded resistance. If I show anything but agreement/validation it will show I'm not engaged. No engagement=the same old guy who doesn't care or has a bad attitude.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)