As we were packing the bags, he asked me for a hug cause I was acting weird. And then left.
Did anyone else hear Trent's head hit the wall?
No, that was last post.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Trent's gonna be the next one going in for surgery in his household for head trauma...
I know weird sitch again. Didn't react the way I wanted to. I took the hug. I should have said....what?___________. Example please? This is how pathetic I am, I need word for word structure...aaaahhh!
MC was good. I feel much better about myself today. He really helped me today.
Trent, what do you mean about not believing what he says right now? What do you believe then? How do you know what to believe and what not to believe. If I don't believe the bad or the good then I'm in a rut.
Sadgirl, I desperately need the bat phone, let me know if you ever have access.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
Trent, what do you mean about not believing what he says right now? What do you believe then? How do you know what to believe and what not to believe. If I don't believe the bad or the good then I'm in a rut.
The rest of the quote is "...and only half of what they do." Which ties in neatly with why we say that your actions are what's important.
When he says something that's hurtful, tell him that you understand why he feels that way. Tell yourself that he's only saying that because he's hurting, or confused, and doesn't know what to do.
When he says something positive, take it for what it is and nothing more. If all else fails, say "thank you". Don't read any intentions into it.
There will come a point where you will know when he starts to be honest with himself, and you. You'll start hearing a lot less of the negative talk -- because it doesn't work any more -- and more of the questioning or positive talk.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
He came in for a hug, because he thought I was acting weird. His actions show me he needed contact with me, which is a good thing. Its better than no contact right? So do I take it and run with it?
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
He came in for a hug, because he thought I was acting weird. His actions show me he needed contact with me, which is a good thing. Its better than no contact right? So do I take it and run with it?
Take it, yes. Don't run with it.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
