Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

Well just got back from MC. He definitely worked on "me" alot more today. I was a mess. Haven't been that way in weeks. MC really talked more about boundaries and making choices based on my healthy needs and wants. He said everything I am doing revolves around H and I am living in an unhealthy separation. I am showing signs of "insanity". I agreed. I told him its time to detach, and let go. I need to put my hope aside. My false hope has been guiding me this whole time and into the wrong place. He also wants me to be honest with myself and H. He stated that if there is ever a chance of "R" then honesty is key. No more saying things certain ways, and only saying certain things in fear of H's reactions. So my goal this week is to set boundaries, live for me this week accept my H is gone.

This sounds very positive. I hope you can hold onto this.

H had a meeting with MC last monday and I was hoping to get some kind of idea of what happened out of MC today, but he was pretty good at being confidential. The only thing he said was that I need to concentrate on me cause H just "isn't there yet". So I took that as his knowledge from the meeting he had with H.

... and then you almost go and blow it!

It doesn't matter what your husband says or thinks right now.