In shock...

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Hey, so just wanted to chime in and say that your situation is almost identical to mine. Its actually pretty crazy. My H too just wants to be friends. Best friends. My H too claims he wasn't happy from the start which leads me to believe my marriage was a sham and only got married for me, and only had children for me...I have a 3yr old and a 1yr old. My H too is staying at his sisters house who is practically my best friend. I am also very close with my H's family. I agree this is the hardest part. I too have a birthday party to go to for my nephew on his side. And I'm going. I am still his aunt and always will be. I wouldn't miss it for the world. I am also scared for the holidays, but really there is nothing we can do right now. We need to make our necessary changes and hope that they make theirs. If they don't then we need to accept that as hard as it is. I am also living sleepless nights with my children as they are so young. My youngest still gets up in the middle of the night. My 3 yr old won't sleep in his own bed anymore since H left (6 weeks now). Its hard. And believe me I'm still struggling. You can read my thread and probably make yourself feel much better to see how much I am struggling as you seem to be doing pretty good so far! Good for you. I also ask how the DB and DR principles work. I have a hard time understanding the concept and I also wonder about the success rate with them. But since my H left and I applied some of them we did a turn around and we made good baby steps, but then I reverted and I'm back at square one again. Don't give up! Give it a try...and listen to the people on here. They know what they're talking about.