11 months for me. The last time I got any was in February. Ouch, I can't imagine 58 months.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Be civil to him and allow him to participate as he chooses, but don't try to engage him for anything more than that.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I can't, my kids are sleeping in the RV with their grandparents. We always get stuck outside in a tent. None of the kids will volunteer to stay outside because it's cold.
I told H he could have his side of the tent and I would have mine. He was okay with that.
I just feel like it's going to be awkward and weird trying to figure out what to talk about.
Take another tent. Their cheap! You should not be sleeping in the same tent. Especially after what happened...buy a one man tent they're like 30 - 40 bucks!
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
I told H he could have his side of the tent and I would have mine. He was okay with that.
I just feel like it's going to be awkward and weird trying to figure out what to talk about.
I agree with britt -- buy or borrow another tent. No reason you two should share a tent.
And as for what to talk about? You're camping! Go hiking with the kids. Go fishing with the kids. Go canoeing with the kids.
Keep the conversation focused totally on the campout and the kids.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
We have tons of tents, but wouldn't be a little passive aggressive to set up another tent just to avoid him?
Not if you make it a boundary.
You don't want to confuse the kids and make things more complicated for the two of you while he works this out for himself, so you will be sleeping apart.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
